The Marks and Model of the Christian Servant

7 Questions That Will Transform Your Relationships

Have you ever wondered why some relationships thrive while others struggle? As a pastor, I’ve seen firsthand how the principles of Christian servanthood can revolutionize the way we interact with others. Today, I want to share with you seven powerful questions that, if applied, could dramatically improve your relationships at home, work, and church.

The Power of Doctrine in Practice

Before we dive in, let me emphasize something crucial: this message is both deeply doctrinal and intensely practical. Some might think that doctrinal teaching isn’t relevant to everyday life, but nothing could be further from the truth. When we understand correct doctrine, we not only know what to believe but also how to behave. As I often say, “When you have the proper Creed, it also affects your Deeds.”

Let’s turn to Philippians 2:1-11, a passage that beautifully illustrates the Marks and model of a Christian servant.

The Marks of a Christian Servant

1. Is the gospel impacting the way I view and treat others?

Paul begins by reminding us of the blessings we’ve received in Christ: “If there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy” (Philippians 2:1). These gifts should transform how we interact with others.

Ask yourself: Am I extending the same grace, forgiveness, and love to others that God has shown me?

2. Is pride or selfishness motivating my words and decisions?

Paul exhorts us to “do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves” (Philippians 2:3). This is a challenging call, but it’s essential for healthy relationships.

Consider: Are my actions driven by a desire for personal gain or recognition, or am I genuinely putting others first?

3. Am I living only for myself?

“Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others” (Philippians 2:4). Our natural tendency is to focus on ourselves, but Christ calls us to a different standard.

Reflect: How often do I prioritize the needs and concerns of others above my own?

The Model of the Christian Servant

As we move into verses 5-11, we encounter what many scholars consider one of the most profound theological passages in the entire Bible. It’s not just rich in doctrine; it’s a practical model for how we should live.

4. Am I grasping after a position that is not mine?

Christ, “though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped” (Philippians 2:6). Jesus didn’t cling to His divine rights but willingly laid them aside for our sake.

Ask yourself: Am I willing to let go of my perceived rights or status for the good of others?

5. Am I serving others?

Jesus “emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men” (Philippians 2:7). The Creator of the universe became a servant for our sake.

Consider: How can I adopt a servant’s heart in my daily interactions?

6. Am I sacrificing myself for others?

Christ “humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross” (Philippians 2:8). His sacrifice is the ultimate example of love.

Reflect: What am I willing to sacrifice for the well-being of others?

7. Am I trusting God for all final outcomes?

After Christ’s humiliation, “God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name” (Philippians 2:9). Jesus trusted the Father with the results of His obedience.

Ask yourself: Can I faithfully serve others and trust God with the outcomes, even when I’m not immediately rewarded or recognized?

Putting It Into Practice

If we consistently ask ourselves these seven questions and align our actions accordingly, I believe we’d see a dramatic reduction in divorces, workplace tensions, and church conflicts. We’d experience more harmony in our homes and deeper unity in our communities.

So, I challenge you:

1. Start each day by reflecting on the gospel’s impact on your life.
2. Before making decisions, check your motives for pride or selfishness.
3. Look for opportunities to serve others, even in small ways.
4. Be willing to let go of your “rights” for the sake of unity.
5. Sacrifice your time or comfort for someone else’s benefit.
6. Trust God with the results of your obedience and service.

Remember, “whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted” (Matthew 23:12). Let’s follow Christ’s example of humble service, trusting that as we do, God will work through us to transform our relationships and glorify His name.